Posted by: theedwardsfam | November 17, 2011

Gospel Powered Parenting – Part 1

Here are a bunch of quotes from the book Gospel Powered Parenting that stood out to me as I read through it. It was a great help to me as I look at my own parenting and hope that it will help you as well!

“Those who see what their adoption cost God, in light of what they deserve, are stunned and amazed at God’s grace. It is holy grace. It is not common.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 88)

“God’s grace is his active favor bestowing the greatest gift upon those who have deserved the greatest punishment.” William Hendriksen (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 88)

“As we have noted, grace is one of the great chasms between Christianity and every other religion. The default condition of the human heart is ‘be good enough and God will accept you.’ Iain Murray notes that ‘the religion of the natural man is always a religion of self-righteousness.’ Christianity reverses all of this. It says, ‘God accepts you despite the fact that you have angered him with infinite offense. God accepts you even though you must be perfect, but you cannot be. God sent his Son to do what you cannot. He lived a perfect life in your place. He bore the Father’s wrath for your infinitely heinous sins. He did this despite the fact that it would have been completely just for him to leave you in your sins. He did this despite any lack of need in himself. His only motive was sheer, overwhelming, incomprehensible love.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 100)

“The message that our marriage preaches either repels or attracts our children. God wants your child to watch your marriage and think, ‘I want a marriage like that, and I want the God that produced it.’ Or, ‘When I think of the beauty of the church that is loved by God the way my dad loves my mother. I want to be part of a church that finds its joy in submitting to Christ as my mother joyfully submits to my father.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 111)

“The gospel is the good news that our children do not need perfect examples. They need humble  examples.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 119)

“The June 2003 issue of Touchstone magazine published the conclusion of a Swiss study that…examined the connection between a parent’s church attendance and the future likelihood that his or her children would also attend church. The conclusion? The father’s spiritual example was the primary toll that shaped his children’s desire to embrace his religion. The mother’s spiritual commitments were less decisive.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 129 Emphasis mine)

“Fatherhood is on the endangered-species list. ‘By 2003 this figure [fatherless homes] had climbed to 25 million. One in three families is now fatherless.’” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 139)

“Women have great power over men. Men need them desperately. The wise woman leverages this power to encourage biblical masculinity.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 140)

“In his classis book Men and Marriage, George Gilder points out that men bring only three unique contributions to marriage – leadership, financial provision, and protection. When women assume these roles, men have nothing to contribute, they feel unneeded, and they abdicate. Women who surrender these responsibilities to their husbands infuse them with purpose, and husbands generally respond positively. By surrendering these responsibilities, women encourage biblical masculinity.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 141)

“Biblical discipline always expresses God’s love.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 145)

“The gospel convinced us that indwelling sin was our children’s problem. The gospel convinced us that authority is a crucial parental issue. The gospel instructed us to pursue our children’s hearts rather than their behavior. The gospel motivated us to use discipline to preach the gospel to our children. The gospel motivated us to fear God. The gospel helped Judy [author’s wife] and me to grow in humility and sincerity.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 147)

“Although Christians recognize that their children can have physical problems such as hyperactivity and that their children’s environment can also affect them, the fundamental diagnosis is more simple and straightforward. Temper tantrums, arguing, and failure to accept correction are the result of plain old-fashioned sin. ‘Christians should be slow to ‘medicalize’ problems the Bible calls sin,’ notes Dr. Timothy Sisemore.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 149)

“The heart of the problem is a problem heart.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 149)

“The long-term solution is…the heart transplant that occurs at new birth. ‘A new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you,’ promises Ezekiel. ‘And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules’ Ezekiel 36:26-27. (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 150)

“Our children are not basically good, and the proof that the heart of the problem is a problem heart should be obvious to any observant parent, even those who don’t believe in the Bible.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 152)

“Children learn good behavior only through the sweaty persistence of their parents. Any parent who has stood between a two-year-old and the cookie jar knows this. (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 152)

“We must be clear about sin…We must also be clear about authority. God puts parents in children’s lives to exercise loving, gracious authority. When they rebel, your response should be immediate, decisive, age appropriate, determined, loving, gracious, and repeated until you have won the battle. ‘Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him’ (Prov. 13:24). ‘Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.’ (Prov. 19:18). Like Paul I urge you, ‘In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who is to judge the living and the dead, and by his appearing and his kingdom’ (2 Tim. 4:1), to exercise servant-authority in the lives of your children.” (Gospel Powered Parenting. Pg. 160)

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  1. […] Here is the 2nd half of the quotes from the book Gospel Powered Parenting! For Part 1 click here. […]


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